As I start to write this post, I’m sipping a glass of Californian red on the ferry bound for home in Napa. I am sipping from the cup of sweet victory after having sprinted for 3 minutes to make it to the terminal seconds before the doors locked shut.
Okay, it’s a small win. And I choose to savor it 🙂
Interestingly most of the entrepreneurs I work with, particularly my male clients, don’t take the time to celebrate their successes. I too have been guilty of this in the past: moving immediately to the next thing without fully experiencing what I’ve just achieved.
What’s the point of achieving something if, when we do, we don’t allow ourselves to fully experience it?
So, I hear you ask, how do I fully experience my success?
Taking the time to celebrate is important. I covered this before in a post I wrote about change and the fleeting nature of success.
The more I work with my clients, the more I am convinced that it’s critical to reintegrate all parts of the experience, the parts that we label heart, mind, body and spirit. These terms can mean different things to different people so let me define them for our purposes here:
- Mind – the part of our experience that we label logical thought, our faculty to meet the world with reason;
- Heart – the thoughts we call feelings, emotions that arise in us;
- Body – the separate object moving through space that allows us to interact with other objects, a physical barrier that separates us from others (yes, this does not represent the whole of physics and it’s how we tend to experience our bodies);
- Spirit – the part of us that is connected to everything else, that knows we’re part of an infinite system (this may or may not be framed as religious and represents a part of physics that I left out of ‘body’ above).
All people start out life experiencing the world as part of another human and, even once we’re born, it’s some time before we define ourselves as separate bodies with the ability to control logical thought. As we go through life, we (men especially) tend to be socialized to experience the world through our mind and body, cutting off our emotional and spiritual experience of the world.
Celebration is a heart and spirit experience – it’s joy arising and the sharing of that joy with others. Drinking from the cup of success, is like savoring a fine wine, the longer we’ve waited to drink it, the better it tastes. And sharing it with others makes it taste even better – it’s amplified. The parts of us that celebrate are our heart and spirit. The parts that we often cut off.
That’s why, in order to fully experience our wins (or fully experience anything in life), it’s important to allow all of our experience in. This is how we can really drink from the cup of success and be fulfilled by our achievements. This is why, as a business coach, I work with all of you: your heart, mind, body and spirit.