This past week I’ve been playing around with the idea of being nice to myself…. Crazy, I know
What I mean by this, or at least what I thought this meant, is letting myself have an extra helping of dessert, an extra glass or three of whiskey, and stay up as late as I could keep my eyes open (I saw 4am for the first time in a long time). I was chasing pleasant experience. I thought, “You deserve it, mate. You’re working hard, bringing home the bacon. What’s a couple of hard starts between friends?”
In playing around with this particular perspective on being nice to myself, I let some other things slide: my balanced eating habits, my daily yoga practice, and waking up feeling refreshed after a good night’s sleep. This had flow on effects: I felt heavier and slower, less focused, and a little grumpy (sorry Kimberly Rose).
The one thing I didn’t let slip was my work. In fact, I worked longer hours than normal last week. I wasn’t worried about getting to bed at a certain time so I didn’t stop working at dinner time to let my mind relax. I was in work hard, play hard mode. I remembered this feeling. I was Superman. I didn’t need rest. I could do it all.
Except…. even though I was working longer hours, I didn’t actually get the things done that needed to be done. Sure I did a ton of work but the most important work, the work that required thought and focus, was pushed aside for whatever was doable in my non-optimal state. My ‘worst-first’ mantra turned to ‘pick-the-low-hanging-fruit’ no matter what the quality.
So what am I learning?
- being nice to myself isn’t necessarily doing whatever feels good in the moment;
- that my inner competitor tells me that I’m a, “BLOODY WEAKY!”, for wanting to eat well, practice yoga, and go to bed early; and
- I can redefine ‘work hard, play hard’ to actually allow myself to work hard and play hard.
My new definition of ‘work hard, play hard’ is: look after yourself so you feel energized – you’ll be more efficient at work and have more fun with the people you love.
To achieve that, I’m going to say yes to my inner CEO and management team and no to my inner competitor. I’m going to keep practicing yoga 6 times per week, not drink alcohol Monday through Thursday, no work after 8pm, and be in bed by 10pm on weeknights, AND if I don’t, I will accept that I am only human
What are you going to say yes to, and no to, in order to work hard, play hard?
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Also, check out my friend and colleague, Jim Dowling’s post – Twelve Twelve Tips for Change: Tip #3 – Worst First.
Be well, go well, and may the force be with you….